O.K. Singles, this one’s for you! How many times have people asked you the innocent yet stinging question, “Are you married yet?” And of course, they just had to put the word “yet” on for good measure. How about that two-worded question that ran like cold water down your spine, “Still single?” When they said the word “still” they seemed to hold on to it for an inordinate period of time and you felt uncomfortable and almost embarrassed. “Stilllllllllll Single????” Somehow you’ve almost been made to feel that being single is at the least toxic and maybe even terminal. I would almost conclude that every single has been there, done that and gotten several t-shirts to verify their state of “singleness.” We can’t forget those well-meaning, “all-knowing” ones who say things like, “Oh, they’ll never marry” as though they have looked into some crystal ball and “discerned” the matrimonial impossibilities of this “incomplete” person.
This blog may not be for everyone but if you can relate just stay tuned. I heard it said sometime ago that singleness and marriage are like flies. Those on the inside want out and those on the outside want in. As humorous as that may be, for the sake of most singles, marriage is a thing that is not only on their mind but it’s in their heart. Most have a desire to find that special someone to spend the rest of their lives with and though they answer those reminding and often annoying questions over and over again, inwardly they wonder, “Will my time ever come?” Sometimes in desperation they just settle for less than God’s divine intention for them and end up marrying the “wrong one.” Then they are like one of those flies on the inside just waiting for an open door to get out or they end up suffering in silence. Listen, you may be living single in a double world but there are a few things you can do to enjoy your journey.
First, surrender. Surrender your will to God’s will and patiently await the one He is preparing for you. Secondly, seek Him first. Fall in love with Him for only then will you really be able to love someone else fully. Then seek out friends who will increase you and not decrease you. Thirdly, don’t settle. Don’t be pressured by your well-meaning friends and the commercialism of today. I made a conscious decision that I was going to be like Ruth and wait on my Boaz (and I do believe there is one) and not my Bozo. Lastly, submit to God’s specialized and wonderful refinement. Take this time to prepare yourself for the one who will come into your life. Singleness is not a disease. It is a season of your life that you can celebrate. That special moment will come. You know that moment when that one chosen especially for you… the one you have dreamed about and prayed for… will come. What’s that I hear? Oh, yeah, it sounds like wedding bells to me…. Is my invitation in the mail?
